Love Doesn’t Work on Auto-Pilot

We tend to take those closest to us for granted at times. In the fast pace of life today, we sometimes grow numb to the tender and thoughtful things that really ought to be a part of loving people. Without trying, we become focused more on survival rather than influence. That, of course, affects those closest to us…the ones we really love the most. All-too-soon, the love we are supposed to feel and express to one another has become a forgotten memory. A distance takes residence between us. Relationships suffer.

This past summer, Susan and I invited Susan’s parents to join us on the Outer Banks of North Carolina for a week of vacation. Wow! Did we have a fun time! Between late night games, visiting the beach, going on a crazy jeep adventure on the barren sand dunes of the wild horse reserve, and many enjoyable conversations, I came to love Susan’s parents more than I ever have. And I think they grew in their love for us too.

How easy it would have been to just “do our thing” and miss the opportunity of loving one another. That’s right, we loved one another through time spent, sacrifice, interaction, enjoyment, etc. etc. The only way this was made possible was through intentionality. We chose to love them by inviting them and spending time with them. They chose to love us by giving up a week of their normal routine to spend with us in a really fun place. Very cool.

Love never works on auto-pilot. Too many marriages are empty because the pair has forgotten how to authentically invest in one another. True friendships die because the parties involved overlook the small investments needed to keep a relationship alive. Love never works on auto-pilot. Love always requires intentional action.

Jesus, of course, said that the most important commandment ever given was to “Love the Lord your God with all your heart, will all you mind, with all your soul and with all your strength.” There are a lot of “alls” there. And without a doubt, it takes intentionality. You cannot love God on auto-pilot either.

So here’s a question for you to consider: What new and fresh ways could you choose to love God this week.

Be intentional. Invest in your relationship with God in a new and meaningful way. It’s THE most important thing you could do today.